Couples therapy is for every relationship, even yours.
Partners aren’t bad. Relationships are hard. Whether you are seeking preventative care, constructive feedback on a particular issue, a way to reduce conflict or dissatisfaction, better (or any) sex, a closer and more meaningful connection, help working through infidelity or betrayal, want to feel like you’re on the same team, or have reached a turning point in your relationship — couples therapy can help.
My therapeutic work with couples focuses on exploring, repairing, and creating deeper and more authentic connection between individuals by facilitating insight, identifying and working to change unproductive relationship patterns, and increasing effective communication and relating skills. As a couple therapist, my responsibility is to the relationship itself and not to one or the other person in the relationship.
Couples therapy is about partners working to know, validate, and accept each other. Differences are part of every relationship, and learning to distinguish solvable from perpetual conflicts can help partners manage differences productively. All couples have perpetual conflicts; the key is to develop skills for talking about and understanding conflicts, recurrent or otherwise, so they do not become overwhelming, or a source of demoralization and disconnection.
Couples therapy can be helpful as a process of self and partner discovery, empowerment, and growth. I foster each couple’s self-determination by encouraging awareness and new behaviors to more effectively and authentically work through difficulties inherent in relationships. Couples therapy is also a place to envision and begin to create a synergistic relational culture between partners —one that provides support, satisfaction, engagement, encouragement, and evolution.
I work collaboratively with each couple using an eclectic approach that draws on evidence-based models of treatment (Gottman, EFT, IBCT) as well as robust theoretical approaches (Developmental Model, Family Systems, Psychodynamic, Existential), integrating research and best practices. Depending on what you are looking for, we may meet for a short period of time to work on a particular goal or symptom relief, or our work may be more long-term and open-ended.
I hold a high standard for myself, the services I provide, and the confidential nature of our work together. When you work with me, I commit to offering my personal best to help you gain understanding about the strengths, difficulties, and conflicts in your relationship so you can achieve the best and most rewarding relationship possible.
The effect of relationship distress on individuals, couples, and families can be profound. Getting help in addressing that distress and in turning it around can be one of the best decisions you make for you, your relationship, and your family.